“Living the Dream” means different things to everyone and I would never presume that mine is better than yours. Mine is quite simply, mine. I know that my dream is different from most and by the time you finish this you may or may not agree; the good thing is that it doesn’t have to be anywhere close. We are individuals with unique goals, skills, accomplishments, and lives. For many their dream includes a certain career, lifestyle, social status or wealth; mine was/is a little simpler — at least to me.
I grew up in Daytona Beach, Florida — a place many would consider ideal; for me however, is was anything BUT wonderful. As long as I can remember I dreamt of the day that I would be able to leave the HOT, sticky, sand infested bug haven that is Florida. I even told my Mom as early as elementary school that I would never stay in Florida, but rather would live in TN, NC or somewhere else farther north with a change of seasons AND snow. Also included in that — my husband and family would live in a 2 story house and be happy; at first she dismissed it as just one of those things kids say, but eventually realized how serious I was. Over time I became more and more convinced that no matter how much I wanted it, it was ONLY a dream — I had little vision for getting out of my hole in Florida. I felt stuck, but the dream never died and I always had ideas in the back of my head about how I could fulfill this dream life of mine. Sometimes dreams become a tool to help us deal with the realities of our real lives; this is exactly what happened to me — as long as I had my dream I could escape into an alternate reality and get lost — in a good way!
Then, lo and behold, one day everything changed; in the midst of my day-to-day, wheel spinning life, my dream began to come more to the forefront. A very close friend was inspired that I should meet someone named Andy; this friend actually said that he would be perfect for me. He knew me well enough that I took notice and listened VERY intently. He was right — Andy and I met and were married and there started my dream! There is a whole other set of posts on the time in between, but that is for another time — I have to keep you wondering a little bit, right? Ok, back to the dream — remember that?
I can honestly say that every facet of the dream I envisioned has come true at one point in my life or another. I left Florida and headed north with the love of my life, we had a son and moved into our first home — a 2 story — in NC. We added a dog to round out the family and later moved to TN. Like I said — I am living the dream — MY dream. No, I am not saying that we are problem free or that everything is easy; what I AM saying is that my dream is still coming true. That’s right — my dream was never about a certain place, a special climate or not being alone — my dream was about being happy — and I am. Simply put, my dream was to be a happily married stay at home mom living in a place with a change of seasons and snow. Guess what — that is what I have. This November Andy and I will have been happily married for 20 years; our son will be 18 in March and we live in TN. I have been blessed to be able to stay at home with Justin for most of the time, and right now we live in Memphis. The heat is horrible in the summer, BUT it does get nice and cold and we have snow on occasion. All in all, I count it a win — at least until we get out of Memphis and on to our next adventure. (If you haven’t read my earlier blogs, please do — it will help fill in some here. Thanks!)
Ok, so why did I write all of this? Well, I only want to encourage you to hold onto your dreams — even when they seem so very far away. While there are no guarantees that they WILL come true, who is to say that the will NOT? I was convinced MANY years ago that I would be stuck in Florida for the rest of my life so I better get used to it, BUT that is not what happened. Hang on to what drives you; focus on the goals you have set. If you haven’t found your dream or you have no clue what you want, find something. Find something that you can hold onto — at the very least you can dream of loving your life. I don’t know what your obstacles are or what baggage you carry; I only know that you deserve to give yourself the chance not only to dream, but to succeed. Find something, focus and strive to bring it into focus. Once you have a dream, or if you have had one for years — don’t let anyone tell you that you aren’t good enough, smart enough, pretty enough or strong enough. You ARE! Only you can determine that your dream is worth fight for; if it isn’t, find another one. Don’t give up!
Ok, time to get back to my dream life! What is on tap for today — shopping?…no…travel?…no…fancy dinner and show?…no. Hmm, well, I can dream, right? Ok, time to go work around the house…and I wouldn’t have it any other way! 🙂
Let’s see what’s next… Thanks for reading!