The right way, the wrong way and the blog way

Most people fall primarily in 2 main categories: rule followers and rule breakers, even though we occasionally slip from one to the other. I, as a general rule, am a rule follower — always have been, and I suspect I always will be. As I have grown, matured and developed and understanding of who I am as a person I have relaxed some in the way I view things. That in itself is another blog for another time. Yes, I do know I keep saying that, but it is true.  🙂

Because of my rule following tendencies, I am apt to look into the “right” and “wrong” ways about doing things; this blog was no different. When I first decided to start a blog I literally asked Andy “OK, what are the rules with blogging?” He just grinned and said there are none, you just write. — I think he enjoyed that just a little too much.  Some that know me well understand how true that scenario sounds. Well, in my need to have boundaries and rules, I proceeded to set up some for myself on this blog. Yes, go ahead and chuckle — I did as I typed it, but that is just a part of who I am. Now, before you try to figure out what my “rules” are, don’t. They are not a traditional set, but more like personal boundaries that I set upon myself for what I blog. For that reason I did not post pics of the young lady Justin took to prom, nor did I go into detail about some events of my past that I referenced in my last blog. I also will not go into detail about those that cause me grief or upset me; I may however vent on a subject surrounding such events. So, if you are looking for a tell all, who done it or gossip column, please read elsewhere. This is a simple blog about things I encounter, lessons I have learned and sometimes, things that just come to mind.

While that set of guidelines has helped me as I blog, it has also caused me some difficulty in choosing what to blog. There are some days that I would just LOVE to type in a scathing list of what has gone wrong, or who caused it or some such nonsense, but then I realize that to do that would go against every grain of my being — not because of and arbitrary set of “rules” I have placed on myself, but because it is just not the right thing for me to do. That doesn’t mean that it won’t make it into this format; it simply means I need to take a minute or two, take a deep breath and refocus. Lessons are learned better from examples and truth than gossip and emotion. Yes, I know that life is not always that neat and tidy, but this is my blog and I get to type what I want — remember the no rules listed earlier?  See — I can adjust a little!

It has taken me a long time to get to the point that I felt comfortable with doing something like this, but in that process I have learned that I do have some experiences that may help someone else. I have long said that one of my callings in life was to let people know that they have value — no matter who they are or what they have been through. If I can help just one person know that they are not alone or that they are important enough and can make a difference, then I will count it as a success. I have also learned to embrace the fact that I am indeed a unique individual; the one detail that I once wished not to be true has become a comfort to me as I navigate my life. I am discovering that to truly fit in with anything or anybody, I must be myself. I must seek out and nurture that which makes me different; if I fail to do this, I will never be at peace.

Let’s see what’s next…Thanks for reading!


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